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 Re: Boyfriend’s broken legs
KimfromMaine    4:55am Feb 22 2020

Hi Jay,

I want to say how loving I think it is for you to check in here as a support person! You are a good friend! It is hard to know what another person wants in terms of attention and care; I've been married for decades and we still can struggle with how we are different in that arena. But, I think expressing curiosity about your BF is generally welcome - with a light touch and not interrogation, as you seem so sensitive to anyway. I think asking if barefoot feels more steady than wearing socks, or asking if he has any sense of lingering worries after the accident creates an opening for reflection and sharing your observation w/out judgement. You've been through a lot as a couple in a short time, maybe you can start to ask if he is the kind of person who will want to commemorate the anniversary of his accident or recovery, how he wants to celebrate a better next summer and fall, etc. to open up conversation... and it is also healthy to reflect on what caregiving is like for you and how you would wish to be cared for if the situation is reversed (or maybe that is for a little later in dating, I don't quite remember).

Kim from Maine w/fractures of tibia and fibula
Slipped on Ice 2/11/2020; Ankle Surgery 2/14/2020

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