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Comment : Side Note about Caregivers
Posted by Sue3 on Mon 3:52pm 12 May 2014
Be conscious of your caregivers. They will wear down over time, and they MUST take time to themselves to rest and recharge. Between 5-8 weeks is the point where you may start feeling really stir crazy. You may want to beg them to take you out somewhere - ANYWHERE. At least once a week, tell them to leave you at home. Youíll be fine, youíre a pro at this now. Tell them to take the afternoon off, and do something for themselves. If you have a DH like me, then tell them to go play some video games, play a round of golf, or go putz in the garage. If you donít force your caregivers to take a break, they will end up wearing themselves out which isnít good for them or for you.
Signs to watch for in a worn-out caregiver: General irritability and crabbiness, stifled heavy sighs or yawns, dropping things or clumsiness, rolling of the eyes, averted gazes. These generally mean your caregivers are tired. If they start giving you excuses why they canít do things or they need to stay out longer than originally intended, then that is a polite way of telling you they need a break away from you. This is OKAY and completely natural. Let them go, encourage them to stay out. Try not asking them to do anything for you before they go out. You can watch TV or play on the internet for a few hours. Besides, you should be able to do most things by now.
Thank your caregivers by doing as much for yourself as you are able to, even if it takes you a hundred times longer to do it. Donít always accept help, but accept when you need it. Push yourself a little bit every day, try a little harder each time. Do everything you can do for yourself, because you are doing for them, too. Donít forget to tell them (if appropriate) that you love them, a lot, and often. Order in pizza occasionally, and laugh a lot. :)
- Side Note about Caregivers - Sue3 Mon 12 May 2014
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